Life lessons at 40 – revised and reloaded.
1. You owe nothing to the world. And the world owes you nothing.
2. Good health is the biggest blessing. Wealth is lost, nothing is lost, health is lost, something is lost, character lost, everything is lost.
3. Earlier I used to believe in life 95 percent would be effort and 5 percent would be luck , Realised long ago that it’s the reverse!
4. Be nice and good, but don’t go out there to prove yourself. The world wont bother or care to understand. No one will cry when you die.
5. Good people die early, young. For various reasons.
6. Everything in life is temporary. Life itself is transient by nature. In larger scheme of things we are nothing more than passing specs in the sands of time.
7. Never rely on Spoken word , it has no worth since most dishonor it. Talk is cheap, only actions matter.
8. Do not seek for social validations. The world is a brutal and nasty place, it shall only respect and sing your peaens when they need you for any reason. Moment its served, it turns your back on you. Expect nothing and you shall not be disappointed.
9. Its enough, if you have 2-3 good friends and healthy relationships. Rest doesn’t matter.
10. Every relationship has strings attached. There are no selfless relationship in the material world. Not even some parents. Material world is material world, spiritual world is spiritual world. It is inexorably linked, but these are both very different worlds. While spirituality is a deeply personal and evolved subject, needing sacrifices, material world is all about asking, gaining and owning.
11. Behaviourial culture is always subjective to change. Creative culture is a rarity. Let one of your pursuits be of creativity.
12. Most people don’t understand others problems. So think and find out solutions yourselves.
13. Being wise in hindsight has no meaning.
14. Books and music were and are still your best friends. There is no end to learning. Art is long, life is short.
15. Wealth is not happiness. Mostly Its comfort and necessity and fulfils a few wants. But it cannot be a defining factor in relationships or life. By its nature, Laxmi is transferable.
16. Peace is the most important thing in life, along with good health. Peace never comes easy, has never been easy. One has to fight to get that and retain that peace.
17. Remain positive and thoughtful, and avoid negative and manhoos people , the world is full of them.
18. World is full of whataboutery and wordplay and unnecessary talks. Discover your peace within.
19. Good people shall always be manipulated. It’s a fact of life. From own near relations to outside world, they shall always try to take advantage of you and turn the other way when you approach them. So beware.
20. Better be alone than in bad company.
21. Happiness is one’s own and a route to self discovery. You will never be happy if you compare others, compare yourself and judge.
22. Donate and keep doing charity, silently, without any showmanship or any expectations .
23. Opinions are like assholes, everyone has it. Not necessarily facts. Develop your own, after a refined thought process, never following any one blindly.
24. Financial independence is one fact of life. Wealth cannot and should not be a matter of ego. Just a matter of being grateful to have it. Laxmi may or may not come on your desire and wants, but she will leave at her will.
25. Gossip is well, Gossip. Good for entertainment, but of very less value.
26. You have a limited shelf life. Stop worrying. Start living.
27. Your time in this world is limited, more limited than you can think of. And future uncertainties shall ensure it shall be so. But let it not make you insecure , rather liberate. Live without fear. Cut out imaginary problems.
28. Humility and dignified people are a rarity. Class is permanent. Separate the grain from the chaff.
29. Blood is thicker than water. No logic or reason will work against it. It is what it is.
30. Important to stay neutral to praise or criticism. Equanimity in victory and defeat.
31. What people say about you is not important, its how you react to it. Act, react, not act, ignore, be neutral, etc…time, place, situation, circumstances dictate everything.
32. Essentially, life is a manifestation.nothing that’s happening now or is going to happen, hasn’t happened before. Its just the form, time, place that changes.
33. The world owes nothing to you. Nor do you owe anything to the world. You are not so important or special as you think to be. Having said that, you are unique. There is no reason to be pessimistic. Have one life, live well.
34. Never wrestle with a pig because you'll both get dirty and the pig likes it
35. A good friend is worth all the gold in the world, even if hes dense or damn stupid.
36. Corollary - An intelligent enemy is reasonable than a stupid friend.
37. Enemies are known to attack you, but a friend can stab you in the back. So be careful in choosing enemies and more careful in choosing friends.
38. Sansar Jeevan is driven by needs and wants, not love and care as before. That era is gone, now its pure base emotions out at work. U cant expect any wholistic view, except short term needs and desires. It’s a crooked world out there.
39. In today’s times, love is a myth.. its just need by a different name.
40. Zindagi me Khushi ke mauke kam hi aate hai.
41. A cursed life is never happy. It can hope against hope, try its best to be. But if your life is cursed by situations, circumstance and surroundings, be it people or places, you will never be happy. Its a judgemental and rigid society.. structure influences behaviour.
42. The price of love is pain. Pain is a lived experience. Unless someone hasn’t gone thru it, cant fathom it.
43. In today’s times, Kindness and empathy is a diminishing quality and will gradually be consigned to the bins of history. In a narcissistic society, inhabited and ruled by Narcs, those are the first few casualties. It’s a reflection of where the society has devolved.
44. Arz kia hai .... Zarurat ko Chahat samajhne ki khata na karna.. mohabbat dur ki baat hai..is gamghin zamaane me hamdard kam hi milte hai..
45. Views and opinions are good, nice to have.. but then anyone can have it, regardless of facts and totally based on their own deep rooted biases , ignorance or half knowledge. So these are not to be taken seriously. Unless its worth knowing and something to learn from, only to be ignored.
46. Corporate success line – yes sir, yes sir, 3 bags full sir.
47. hope as they say is a good friend and master but bad servant.
48. We are living in extreme difficult times. Its difficult to live and obscurity follows death. Value of human lives and sentiments have reduced drastically. It’s the age of raw, base desires at play, where absolutism and extremism has taken deep roots in the society, almost everywhere. There is no room for reasoned debates, or finer nuances in anything now. Just stupid views and ill informed opinions.
